Wednesday, August 15, 2012

PSYCHOLOGY OF SUCCESS

A GREAT PSYCHOLOGICAL TRUTH
 If you think you are beaten, you are,
 If you think you dare not, you don’t,
 If you like to win, but you think you can’t
 It is almost certain, you won’t.   
 If you think you will lose, you have lost,
 For out of the world we find,
 Success begins with a fellow’s will –
 It is all in the state of mind.
 If you think you are outclassed, you are –
 You have got to think high to rise.
 You have got to be sure of yourself before
 You can ever win a prize.
 Life’s battles don’t always go,
 To the stronger or the faster man;
 But soon or late the man who wins,
 Is the man who thinks he can.

Saturday, July 21, 2012

Psychology of Success.

SUCCESS—DNA vs LEARNED BEHAVIOUR
In a more serious vein, a study conducted by scientists of the Institute for the Study of Labour and the University of Bonn, reveals that parents who revel in taking risks tend to have children who are more willing to indulge in risk-taking behaviour. And the eagerness to trust fellow human beings is also apparently inherited. This may explain why success seems to be a family affair, as every economic decision is a result of judicious risks and trust imposed on worthy individuals.

Therefore, it is a matter to be seriously considered whether by sheer hard work, talent or just the advantage of an environment that inspires achievement, being born and bred in the lap of success seems to be a sure shot manner of being successful in one’s adult years. So, does success, apparently do beget success?

Researchers point out; ‘heritability’ suggests the importance of considering genetic factors to explain why some people are successfully entrepreneurial, while others are not. The research further debunks another myth that opposites always attract. “Women who like taking risks are more likely to have husbands of the same ilk. This shapes the attitude and mindset of the offspring who, in turn, choose a partner similar to themselves. Thus, ‘success’ is inherited across several generations.”

Then, is there any reason to indulge in backbreaking hard work? There is, it seems. “Your genetic composition can give you a good start as you have an environment that exposes you to success. It surely lends you that advantage. Nevertheless, remember that just acquiring the genes cannot give you the actions of your parents.

However, if you are growing up in a family full of achievers, you certainly do not want to be qualified as the family wastrel who just lolls about and enjoys the scent of money. When you live with successful people, you also want to be successful. Yes, your genes give you an edge, an initial advantage. But after that, you have to possess the required talent.

Therefore, while the components of success are genetic, success itself could be an amalgamation of genes as well as learned behaviour. Just breathing in an environment where a ‘good morning’ is accompanied with the latest share bazaar news could be inspiration enough to try walking in daddy’s footsteps. And that could well pave the way to success.

Indian Astrology:

In respect of Indian Astrology:
It is said that there are seven planets that effect human fate. In addition to that there are RAHU and KETU.
It is all non-sense, and quite primitive. There are millions of f planets, as revealed by the modern observatories. Secondly, how Sun can be counted among the planets? How we can believe in the presumed 'Rahu' and 'Ketu' that actually do not exist? How the hell they may effect our fate? Can any body explain the process by which they practically affect the human beings? I wonder about all this primitiveness that grips even the 21st Century educated people.

Friday, July 20, 2012

PSYCHOLOGICAL PROCESS THAT CONVERTS THOUGHTS INTO SUCCESS ARE—

1.    Every voluntary movement of body is caused, controlled and directed by
     thought, through the operation of mind.

2.    The presence of any thought or idea in our consciousness tends to
     produce an associated feeling which is apt to urge upon us to transform
     that feeling into muscular action that is in perfect harmony with the
     nature of our thought.

3.    If we choose life-work to realize a definite purpose, it becomes the
     dominating thought in our consciousness, and we are constantly on the
     alert for facts, information and knowledge with which to achieve that
     purpose.

4.    Deep Seated Strong Desire determines what our definite purpose in life
     shall be, unless we permit it to be pushed aside by conflicting desires. If
     the object of desire is within reason, it is  practically sure of realization.
        In Short – The stages leading from desire to its fulfillment are –
     FIRST:  The burning desire.
     SECOND:  The crystallization of that desire into a definite purpose.
     THIRD:  The sufficient appropriate action or work to achieve that
     purpose.

Saturday, May 19, 2012

ORGANIZE YOUR THOUGHTS, EMOTIONS AND ENERGIES:
     Every thing we have created on this planet was essentially first created in our minds. All that you see which is human work on this planet first found expression in the mind, then it got manifested in the outside world.

         If you organize your mind to a certain level, it in turn, organizes the whole system. Your body, your emotions, your energies, everything get organized in that direction.

         It is very important that your physical, emotional, mental and energy actions are controlled and properly directed. If it is not so, we become destructive, self-destructive.

         If life has to happen the way you think it should happen, first of all how you think and with how much focus you think, how much stability is there in your thought and how much reverberance is there in the thought process— all these will determine if your thought will become a reality or not.

         Modern science is proving that the whole of existence is just a reverberation of energy. It is a vibration. Similarly, your thought is also vibration. If you generate a powerful thought and let it out, it will always manifest itself.

         To create what you really care for, first, what you want must be manifested in your mind. Once you can maintain a steady stream of thought without changing direction, definitely this is going to happen in your life. It will definitely manifest as a reality in your life.

         You must be clear as to what is it that you really want. If you do not know what you want, the question of creating it does not arise.

         What every human wants is to live joyfully. He wants to live peacefully, in terms of its relationship he wants to be loving and affectionate. All that any human being is seeking for is pleasantness around him.

        Once your mind gets organized, the way you think is the way you feel: your emotions will get organized. Once your thoughts and emotions are organized, your energies will go the same way. Then your very body will get organized. Once all these four are organized in one direction, your ability to create and manifest what you want is phenomenal.

Thursday, April 5, 2012

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

BEWARE OF NEGATIVE EMOTIONS:
Each of us has been given the gift of life fuelled by the life-force or “Prana”. Like food, air or blood, our invisible energy system consisting of emotions flows through our bodies, is processed and transformed before leaving us. The manner in which it does this tells us how energetic we are. You sometimes feel low, drained; energy-less. You might feel so after a stressful period – because of trying circumstances, a spell of hectic work or sudden trauma. Why does this precious source of life-force (Prana or energy) dwindle, sometimes to desperately low levels?
Take a look at major energy-guzzlers –
I. WORRY: We worry about things that we are convinced are doomed to happen – that those who are ill will not recover– others who aren’t, will fall ill – bad times will remain bad – good ones will take a turn for the worse – children who are admitted in school or college might not do justice to the opportunity given to them, etc. In fact, as a worrier can tell you with conviction, nothing in life is certain, so there is much to worry about. Thus there is always ample fuel for worry. And this is a greedy unsatisfied fire, always ready to devour more. It is a vicious story of burnout.
What does this mean in energy terms? Consider this: Energy follows thought; so as you continue to feel that fire – as you think negative thoughts about all the things that may not turnout as well as you wish, you are actually giving energy to those very occurrences that you wish to avoid. As you continue to obsessively think about them and imagine the consequences, energy continues to flow to them. You often feel them manifesting, little realizing your role in their creation. Soon you feel drained, unhappy and low in energy.
II. RESENTMENT: If worry drains you with fear of the future, then hurt, resentment and regret keep you chained to the “past”. As you nourish memories of people who have hurt you or let you down, of the circumstances that have betrayed your expectations, or of the unfulfilled dreams, you are only draining energy to something that is in fact dead and gone. By dwelling in the past that is dead, you un-necessarily feel life to be unfair and joyless; a burden rather than a gift.
III. GUILT: We all make mistakes, feel regret or remorse over situations in our lives and commit acts of omission or commission. But, we cannot let go. We believe it would be irresponsible to forgive. So we continue to internally condemn and scold, instead of learning from the fall and getting up to move on. It is much like climbing a mountain with a heavy trunk tied on our back. How you can really look around and enjoy the view?
Physically, where we hide our feelings? According to emotional technique practitioners in Reiki, we repress them within – in various parts of our body. Anger hides in our liver, ruining our digestion and creating acidity. Hurt and resentment cause constipation. Financial insecurity might cause us discomfort in our back. Although these might seem like generalizations, they are emotional components of our Physical aches and pains.
Thus, if we are feeling worried, distressed, upset, angry, irritated, resentful or guilty, we can safely assume that energy is leaving our body, because these are emotions which make us weak and we could be pushed into being losers and unable to cope with requirements of success. Therefore, to achieve success, we must eradicate this weakness that can be done through healthy development of Emotional Intelligence (Emotional Quotient).
A few tried and tested tips leading to a bit more of Emotional Intelligence:
I. Maintain an emotional record. For a week, daily jot down your feelings at regular intervals. From this record, try to locate emotional patterns and reasons for having reacted the way you did.
II. Try to focus on the feeling and not the event. Be honest with yourself about whether you’re over-reacting. Focus on the negative feelings and try to make it better.
III. You may or may not be able to affect what happens, but you can always affect the way you frame it on your mind. This will affect how you feel about it. Think about how you think about things.
IV. Try to be a good listener even if you don’t like what you are hearing. Try stepping into someone else’s shoes, especially if you are feeling negative towards them. Think up two reasons to support their view. This makes it easier to strike a balance.
V. Anger destroys. When you lose your temper, you lose control of your actions. Learn to be in control. You must calm down by concentrating on breathing deeply and slowly. Relaxing your body has a relaxing effect on the mind. Don’t tackle the problem that made you angry until you are calm.
VI. We all have good and bad feelings. The bad ones usually overpower the good. Change this using mental imagery by allocating good feelings to positive images – making them appear big, well defined and brightly coloured; and bad feelings to negative images – making them appear tiny, blurred and grayish-black.
VII. Refine your repertoire of ‘feelings’ and ‘feeling-words’ so you can expand your consciousness about your EQ.
VIII. During decision-making, let your feelings play a role. Imagine you have already made the decision. What does it feel like? Now imagine another decision. What does that feel like?
IX. Inquire after another’s feelings before proceeding to decision making.
X. Remember that “feeling good” about something doesn’t mean that the decision is correct.
XI. Be willing to acknowledge if you are afraid, angry or confused.
These are normal fears in a normal person. Escaping from your feelings denies you significant powerful and necessary information.
DON’T WORRY: Worry is a habit that we develop ourselves due to fear and uneasiness or disturbance. Outside circumstances don’t have any connection with it. Worry does not solve any problem.
One has to change one’s life-style to get saved from worries. To get rid of worries you may take the following steps.
I. Never sit idle, as an idle brain is likely to make a mountain of a molehill.
II. Think of today only. Don’t put up today’s problems tomorrow. Live in today only by making it the most beautiful day.
III. Take it easy, when any thing goes wrong; because everything can’t pass
on as per your own liking.
IV. Cultivate the habit of remaining happy or humorous. Socialize with people. It will promote sociability and remove aloofness.
V. Do away with petty matters and unnecessary apprehensions in your mind.
VI. Do away with procrastination, otherwise accumulation of work will cause burden on your mind.
VII. Have faith in your inner spiritual strength that often stands by you at the
moment of crisis.
VIII. When you do the works that should not be done you are gripped by worry and fear.
IX. To find out the cause behind your worry, analyze your mental situation,
the changes occurring in your emotions, views and actions. It will alert you to bring necessary changes in yourself.
X. Find solution to your serious problems to remove worry.

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

PSYCHOLOGY OF SUCCESS.

BE THE MAKER OF YOUR OWN DESTINY THROUGH SELF-EFFORT:
Everyone has a favorite word for the inexplicable in life for that eternal arbiter of universal law. Someone would say, “I haven’t achieved every thing in life by myself; destiny has also been kind to me.” Some else may say, “Destiny is what we make of it”. So generally, destiny for them has two sides – the effort we make, and the result of that effort. The effort is of our choosing, the result may not.

However, ‘effort’ means everything that we make of ourselves, and you could make whatever you wanted of yourself – you could be brave person or a coward, wise or foolish, strong or weak. Destiny was ours to make or unmake. Thereafter came knowledge, effort and goal. Knowledge must direct our efforts to achieve our chosen goal. On certain occasions, we may be creatures of destiny; but that destiny is for us to share as we wish.

You need not petition or blame God for every small thing. If you believe in Him, don’t call his name trivially. God or destiny was someone or something to be understood, felt or realized in action, in deed and not merely by words. Believe in yourself, your family, your friends and the people or society around you. What other God do you need to believe in and what more can any God want you to do? Are they all not His creation?

Therefore, reject fate realize your destiny. One should overcome evil by good and fate by self-effort. One who says, “Fate is directing me to do this” is brainless, and the goddess of fortune abandons him. Hence, by self-effort acquire wisdom and then realize that this self-effort is not without its own end, in the direct realization of the truth.

If an astrologer predicts that a young man would become a great scholar, does that young man become a scholar without study? No. Then why do we believe in destiny? All of us have attained self-knowledge by self-effort alone. Hence, renounce fatalism and apply yourself to self-effort.

Watch your thoughts, they become your words. Watch your words, they become your actions. Watch your actions, they become your habits. Watch your habits, they become your character it becomes your destiny.

The universe is transformation; our life is what our thoughts make it. – (Marcus Aurelius).